Pride Shabbat 2020

Shabbat is about imagining a better world — it’s both a time for pause and rejuvenation, and an opportunity to plan what actions we will take to make the world better in the week ahead.

Pride Month, which celebrates the impact of the LGBTQ+ community on the world, takes place in June to commemorate the Stonewall riots of June 1969. We also know that the legacy of the Civil Rights Movement and LGBTQ Movements are intertwined. Marsha P Johnson, Stormé DeLarverie, Miss Major, and many other Black and brown transgender and LGBQ people led the front line of the Stonewall riots, advocating for gay rights and an end to violent police misconduct.  We are proud to be a part of the queer Jewish community’s Shabbat experience and the continued fight for freedom.

Why Celebrate with Shabbat dinner?

For as long as there have been Jews, there have been queer Jews. We can see Jewish explorations of gender as early as the Talmud, which describes 6 different genders in detail. In modern history, Jews and queer people have often found themselves fighting side by side for civil rights against brutal oppression. From Emma Goldman to Harvey Milk to Leslie Feinberg, LGBTQ+ Jewish writers, artists, and activists have shaped the landscape of queer liberation.

Oneg, joy, is an inherent part of the Shabbat dinner experience. While the LGBTQIA+ community and allies are still fighting for rights, there’s much to celebrate. Shabbat dinner, taking a moment to connect with community and heal from the week of busyness, is essential for self- and community-care. We know that this is difficult and isolating — but we hope that anticipating Shabbat provides you with a moment to exhale. Learn more about what OneTable is doing in the time of COVID-19 here.

THE ONETABLE X JQI PRIDE SHABBAT GUIDE 2020

One of the queer community’s greatest strengths is resilience. Use this guide to rest, to feel, and to celebrate.

How do I host a Queer/LGBTQ+ Shabbat? Our director of communications has some tips for you. When posting your dinner, or searching for a seat at the table, use the tag Pride2020. New to OneTable? Check out this page on hosting and our resource library.

We’re proud to team up with JQ International — an org that celebrates the lives of LGBTQ+ Jews and their allies by transforming Jewish communities and ensuring inclusion through education, support, and identity-enrichment.

Questions? Here are some answers:

How does hosting a Shabbat with OneTable work?

If you are not already a OneTable Shabbat dinner host, sign up here. (Applications take up to 3 days to process.) Once you’re a host, you can post your dinner here.

Physical social distancing is hard – but we’re following the current health authority advice and it’s what we need to do. Please only host your household or get together virtually. During this time, we cannot allow dinners on the platform that are in-person, unless it’s for the people you live with – we’re Nourishing dinners of any size.

When does my dinner need to be posted?

Shabbats must be posted on the site by the Tuesday before the dinner at midnight local time.

What is Nourishment?

It’s a resource OneTable is able to offer to those hosts who need a little extra help to elevate their dinners. It is not meant to cover the full cost of the dinner. It comes in the form of digital gift cards. Our options are businesses that give us discounts on their services. If you do not need this assistance, you can choose to “pay it forward” and it will help another host bring more Shabbat into their life!

Dinners are eligible for $10/seat, up to $100.

When do I need to choose my Nourishment?

We encourage you to choose your Nourishment ASAP.

With that in mind, you will only be nourished for the number of guests you have signed up by  the Wednesday before your dinner.

Can I host more than once this Pride?

One dinner a month per host is eligible for Nourishment in most of our cities.

You are welcome to post multiple dinners, but only the first one you post for each month will be eligible for Nourishment assistance.

Can I have my parents/kids/non-Jewish friends at my table?

All people present must be over the age of 21.

OneTable is uber-inclusive. At OneTable, we want you to spend Friday night with the people who YOU want to spend your Friday night with – guests of any and all religions and cultures are welcome.

What makes a Friday night dinner a Shabbat dinner?

We want you to find the right ritual fit for you and your guests. We encourage you to check out the above resources and check-in with your Field Manager. Set the intention that makes you want to elevate your dinner for your guests.

More questions?

Check out our full FAQ here, and/or get in touch with your Field Manager.

More Resources

GET INSPIRED

It’s not all rainbows and glitter (but it’s definitely some rainbows and glitter).

LISTEN

We made you a playlist to get everyone in the mood to talk history, justice, and celebration.

CARE

The JQ Helpline provides inclusive support and resources for LGBTQ+ Jews, their families, and allies.

READ

On our responsibility to love and support one another — words by Graie Hagans

CONNECT

One of the best parts of gathering around the table is the incredible conversation. Here are some ideas to get it flowing.

LEARN

Another way to add to your Shabbat table is by bringing a piece of Torah for your guests to learn together.